Based on, you know, this was thousands of people all around the world that we collected data from, we found that about 95 percent of people tend to believe they're self-aware. That's him that does it." DR. TASHA EURICH: Our data has shown that 95% of people think that they are already self-aware, but the real number is closer to 10% to 15%. Company intends to cooperate fully with any law enforcement officials or agencies in the investigation of any violation of these Terms of Use or of any applicable laws. I think that's a really good way to start off talking about this topic. Lessons/Courses/Products: We will ask for your consent first. Do you want to approach them? You don't think of a jock and think like, "He's so funny," but it doesn't matter. So what's going on here? Self-awareness is really an interesting field. ‎Tasha Eurich: Insight Tasha Eurich is an organizational psychologist, researcher, and New York Times best-selling author. When we interviewed them and asked them: "Who do you get feedback from?" One word change. That sounds so obvious and yet I'm totally not sure how to do that. COMPANY IS MAKING THE WEBSITE AVAILABLE “AS IS” WITHOUT WARRANTY OF ANY KIND. I was kind of doing what I thought was right, and these last two times that I felt this way, I've had a boss," which made sense because I come from a long line of entrepreneurs who kind of hate being told what to do. And they're like, "What? But we found -- for you statistics nerds that are listening -- a 0.0 correlation between people's overall internal and external self-awareness. Jordan Harbinger: [00:14:49] Yeah. But we almost never ask and what's behind that if you just strip away everything, what it comes down to -- you actually mentioned it -- is that we're worried we might not actually be liked or respected or valued by any of these people. And so the conventional wisdom is, "Oh, talk about something you learned so that other people learn from it." [01:17:52] This show is created in association with PodcastOne and this episode was produced by Jen Harbinger and Jason DeFillippo, and our engineer is Jase Sanderson. [00:42:47] So there was one study done with a million high school seniors and 25 percent of them put themselves in the top one percent in their ability to get along with others, and only about two percent rated themselves as below average. Again, this goes back to what our unicorns were able to do seemed impossible, which is to be highly self-aware with overall less time invested. You're really asking these why questions with great intentions, but going back to what we talked about earlier, not only are we not going to find those answers, we just can't access so many of those things. [00:06:18] The second thing that we discovered was that those people, these self-awareness unicorns, as we called them, actually worked harder on their self-awareness than almost anyone else. Jordan Harbinger: [00:48:57] What about our kids? Using her own experiences and the results of a great deal of research, Eurich So instead of talking about why it's bad to not have the skill, what would it mean for your listeners if they improve their self-awareness 10 to 15 percent, even just keeping the bar low? And number two is they had to believe that person would tell them the truth, even if it was hard. Links to the book, of course, will be on the website in the show notes. If you have any questions about this, please contact us. [00:22:52] Now, why were they doing this? [00:01:16] How we see others and ourselves, both at work and at home, has been shown not only to provide leaders with better teams in the office, but also helps unlock happier marriages, have stronger relationships, and even raise less narcissistic children, which is worth pursuing, I'd say. And what I discovered was it wasn't completely perfect. And within hours you receive your first design, and over the next week, a typical project will receive 60 to more than a hundred different designs from designers around the world. That's kind of how this got to my radar. And it was hard to hear. And this is mostly with, you know, again, very senior-level executives, but I think it's true of everybody. And this is how I developed the compare and contrast tool. They don't have time to go to therapy once a week unless they have made time. So I think part of this like so much of self-awareness involves a little bit of a leap of faith. 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Tasha Eurich has helped thousands of leaders around the world to become more self-aware and successful. brings focus on how we might reach real insight—the kind that transforms us and our relationships with those we work with.”, “In this groundbreaking and thought-provoking book, Tasha Eurich shows how we can seize the single greatest opportunity for continual growth, improvement, it is possible to make the journey, and that the courage and effort it takes to get there are well worth it.”, “The commonsense view of self-awareness is generally wrong and unhelpful. I say dinner because if you want an adult beverage, that is a pretty good time to have one. And I'm like, "Okay, how do I do that?" And it seems like you should probably write this stuff down cause otherwise if we're just looking at it, we're going to look back with rose-colored/poop-colored glasses. What we've discovered in our research is those two types of self-knowledge require different tools and different processes. It means that they're probably just not going to volunteer it. So whereas most of us, especially online, are using social media as a meformer vehicle, they were using social media to focus on other people. When left to our own devices, most people are meformers. Thank you for tuning in to the session! In addition, the Company may deactivate any account at any time, including, without limitation, if it determines that a Registered User has violated these Terms of Use, or the Terms of Use for any particular service, product or program. To discover whether the science of self-awareness supports the hype of its buzzword status in the business world, Tasha Eurich spent six years studying the topic in great detail, which resulted in her New York Times bestseller Insight: The Surprising Truth About How Others See Us, How We See Ourselves, and Why the Answers Matter More Than We Think. But the second barrier or obstacle is ourselves. Your support of our advertisers keeps us on the air to learn more and get links to all the great discounts you just heard, so you can check out those amazing sponsors, visit Sounds pretty great, right? It turns out everybody's backing up when they talk to me. Tasha Eurich: [00:38:41] Or you can get down a rumination spiral, which is like, "Why can't I manage to make any of my relationships work? And if you're not exercising that muscle, the muscle is going to decay. If you have no self-awareness or in the case of you're mentioning, if you have an incorrect assessment of, let's say, how much gas you have in the tank, you're going to drive until you eventually run out of gas and you're not going to see it coming. And it's like, do you just not see any of the irony here? Jordan Harbinger: [01:11:50] That's fascinating. Jason DeFillippo: [00:52:51] Try P3-OM risk-free today, they have the best guarantee we've seen in the industry. You're going to be surprised. I would imagine it's gotta be so hard to take this input. Jordan Harbinger: [00:18:03] That's really good news for people like me who are so self-aware and very, very humble. Nobody else has said anything." Dr. Tasha Eurich … Every organization. Aside from telling them about the pantyhose study, how do you end up convincing the people you coach, these executives like, "Hey, actually you're not?" Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! They said, "Oh, well, can't you see it's the better elasticity, or the color is better, or the manufacturing is just of a higher quality." Jordan Harbinger: [00:34:46] Well, yeah, of course. It's the book I wish I'd had when starting out in business and the one I'd recommend to anyone who wants to cultivate the kind of self-knowledge that is the bedrock And the compare and contrast tool is very simple. And just that question "What am I feeling right now?" [00:24:20] And so that begins to make the process make sense. I was interested in self-awareness just because I've been an executive coach and an organizational psychologist for the last 15 or so years, and I had noticed that this term had become just this huge buzzword, you know, seemingly overnight. WE DO NOT WARRANT THAT THE WEBSITE OR ANY OF ITS CONTENT WILL BE UNINTERRUPTED OR ERROR-FREE, THAT DEFECTS WILL BE CORRECTED, OR THAT THE WEBSITE OR THE SERVERS THAT HOST SUCH CONTENT ARE FREE OF VIRUSES OR OTHER HARMFUL COMPONENTS OR ARE FULLY FUNCTIONAL, ACCURATE OR RELIABLE. Jordan Harbinger: [00:42:01] One thing I loved in your research was that all age groups have shown marked increases in narcissism over the last 30 years. And I say, "Well, maybe," but I actually think that if you take a step back and you are focusing on "Are the questions I'm asking myself propelling me forward to action and insight, or are they misdirecting me and getting me stuck?" PROHIBITED USES. Specifically, you have the following rights: To exercise any of these rights, please contact Jen Harbinger at with your request. One of the things I've experienced as I've been strongly encouraged to get on Instagram and trying my best is sometimes I overthink it, right? If you enjoyed this session with Tasha Eurich, let her know by clicking on the link below and sending her a quick shout out at Twitter: Click here to thank Tasha Eurich at Twitter! Jordan Harbinger: [00:38:53] Right. And now almost 10 years in, I've never felt that way again. TED Talk Subtitles and Transcript: We'd all like to believe we're self-aware, but in reality, the facts point to a more sobering truth. It was very hard to hear. And what I discovered, one day as I was driving home from work, I was in what was supposed to be my dream job on paper. What Legal Basis Do We Have For Collecting and Processing Your Information? And it's like, "Oh, crap. I'm already good at it." Your data is collected and held here. Everybody else is an idiot. There've been a couple of studies that have shown the companies made up of large numbers of un-self-aware employees were 79 percent more likely to show poor financial returns. We reserve the right to employ separate counsel and assume the exclusive defense and control of the settlement and disposition of any claim that is subject to indemnification by you. And I said, "Yeah, I have." I thought, okay, I'm just going to suck it up. And basically what you need to know is you can give this a shot and you will, let's just say, feel/see the difference, and if you want to see it in action, but not in the way you're probably thinking right now, go to And I would imagine you'd go, "Well, no. [00:29:02] There's a lot of research that shows a negative relationship between our self-awareness and how powerful we are. and performance. Company reserves the right to amend these Terms at any time. ", Jordan Harbinger: [00:18:12] Is there a scientific term or a statistical term for something that -- a concept that works in one way, but not the other? You wouldn't, because you're not paying attention to other people anyways. I've got a plane." Tasha Eurich: Insight Tasha Eurich is an organizational psychologist, researcher, and New York Times best-selling author. No. The second is "What didn't go so well?" Nobody likes you. [00:11:33] Number one is they understand who they are on the inside. 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I've got to sit down and think about that, whereas some people -- and I was up to a point kind of jealous of these folks -- I would be like, "Man, look at this person just filming themselves eating spaghetti with a celebrity in the background, and they're just with reckless abandon, and then they're having no problem. Could you tell us more, could you do a little bit of introspection about why you chose the pair you chose?" Jordan Harbinger: [00:59:51] What is this Dinner of Truth? Company reserves the right to terminate your use of the Service and/or the Website. The Website is intended only for users aged 18 or older. It's like, okay, but then we started to ask, is introspection always bad? And then I get other feedback from people that's like, "You'd never do that. The right to erasure: Request we erase certain data about you. Use features like bookmarks, note taking and highlighting while reading Insight… I thought I was just loud.". 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